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Oral Sex
On Women (Cunnilingus)
This is a collection of advice from many people, edited into a guide for Men (primarily, women probably don't need it) who are willing to learn how to orally please a women.
Preparation:
- SHAVE your face! No one wants sandpaper on their thighs. Facial hair is fine, just not stubble...
- Decide that you WANT to do this, and try to enjoy it yourself. Remember to smile, say "I'm happy to be here" with your eyes, and don't frown, complain or be grudging about it.
- Watch her masturbate if she feels comfortable with you there, and watch what she does. She will, of course, concentrate on her favorite pleasure zones, and that is where you should concentrate as well.
First off, know where everything is:
In this picture:
- the fingers are the outer lips,
- the buttons are inner lips,
- and the wheel is a clitoris.
The wheel is mounted in the hood,
which would normally come down
a bit over the top of the clit.
The cord leaves the mouse at about
where the vagina opens.
Start with a bath, shower, or massage. A touch of perfume can be nice.
Take your time, start slow and steady and listen for positive (or negative) feedback. If you can get a women to talk to you (many will not, sadly) be sure to encourage her to give you feedback.
A womans clitoris is incredibly sensitive: Do NOT dive immediately into the clit. In fact, start away from the pussy entirely, working around the general area (kissing over her belly, thighs, cheeks and so on. It's your chance to smell and kiss her all over.) and even fake her out a bit; diving towards her slit and then moving away to do something else. Breath slow, hot air on it first. (and maybe cool fast air after that) Let the tension build.
I won't lick a lady until I drive her wild enough with the waiting for her to actually start talking to me; asking me to hurry up and touch here 'there' and then I tell her she has to call it by it's name and tell me exactly what to do. - Greg.
Finally, when you do make contact, avoid the clit at first. Start outside and work in. Lick, kiss and nibble the outer lips, then slowly spread them open. Wait until she is very obviously ready (or she asks for it once, twice or a few times) before you lick just above the clit and then down to it. Start on the top, where the clit is hooded, and stay there for a while or for ever. That indirect contact is best in most cases, especially if she is not talking. Some women will eventually want more direct (up from the bottom contact) but many will find that too intense.
Lick the alphabet. It makes you appear creative, it's an easy diagram to remember, it's like "aaaaa.... beeeee.... ceeee." She's think you're from fuckin' Europe or somethin: "OH GOD, WHERE'D YOU LEARN THAT, OHHH," and you're going "A, B, C, D, E, F, G." - Sam Kinison
Don't forget your hands. Roam over her belly, thighs and grab her ass. If she likes having her nipples and breast stimulated, and your shoulders / position will allow, reach up and play with her.
Get your entire face into it. Use your lips, nose, chin... everything. Move up and down and side to side. Try some big long licks between the short fast ones.
If it doesn't get all over the place, it doesn't belong in your face! - Burger King
If she really wants it, especially as she is about to cum (remember, this may be a LONG time later) you can put your lips around her clit and suck it in gently, then flick your tongue over it, top to bottom or side to side near the top. If she still says "more / harder!" then go up and down as fast as possible and suck harder. And if that doesn't do it... you might try biting very, very gently.
At some point, your neck, jaw and/or tongue is going to start to wear out.
- Neck strain - Put her on top (don't worry, she probably won't smother you while grinding herself all over your face!) or put your hands together with fingers intertwined, then spread your thumbs up and out, rest your hands on the bed and put your chin on the top of your index fingers with the thumbs on either side of your jaw.
- Jaw strain - Switch to lips for a while so you can close your mouth. Use the neck support idea just mentioned and let your thumbs massage your jaw.
- Tongue strain - Switch to lips, nose, chin, fingers, eyelids, anything to give it a rest. Get your face in closer so you don't have to stick it out so much.
- Everything strain - Take a break. Use your fingers, thumbs, dildo, dick, something to keep it going, and come back to it when you can. Think of it as an exercise... build up your carpet licking muscles.
With that neck brace idea (see "Neck strain" above) you can put your index fingers side by side rather than intertwined and insert them into her vagina. If she loves anal sex, you can manage that with your little fingers.
You can also use a finger (or two) hooked up in her vagina to press the clit (and hopefully the G-Spot) up into your face. If you make a "come here" motion with your fingers, it can stimulate the underside of the clit (which is quite long and extends back into her body1) and feel really good.
Use a vibrator at the same time. It takes some of the responsibility (and work load) off your tongue and speeds up the TTTC (total time to cum).
Some women take longer than others. My wife takes a long time, and it took me a while to build up my jaw and tongue stamina. But she comes like a freight train when she finally gets there so it's definitely worth the wait. - ezoltan
Another idea is to use your deep bass voice as an audio vibrator: Humm against her or growl. The vibrations may feel good... or they may tickle. Don't tickle.
What ever you do, keep going. Especially when she is getting excited and ready to cum, be a man and get through that cramp without stopping. Remember: A women who had a great cum is going to return the favor at a later date.
If she doesn't cum: Don't stress (much). Women are not always all about the O. Sometimes it just works well as a warm up for other things... If she doesn't cum at all... well... talk about it. Maybe she needs help, maybe YOU need help. Work it out.
After she cums: STOP! Or at least, slow down. Her clit is going to be very tender, sensitive, and continuing to lash away at it is going to crush the afterglow. Finish as you started: Work your way out from the center, kissing or licking her outer lips, thighs, belly, etc...
I like my man to hold still while im cumming, if he holds for a bit and backs off before pushing the level up again, then it is possible to easily push me into multiples - Cate
On Men (Blow Job/Deep throat)
This is only included because women may wish to know how to do this. I could be, for some, a matter of pride to be able to perform this trick.
Preparation
- Practice the techniques below on a popcicle or lollypop (don't let him see you... it will make him nuts... or do...)
Supplies
- Sex lube. Yeah, saliva can work, but there are some better options. A few of the available lubricants taste good, and will realy help it go down easy.
- To stay lubricated after insertion: Stay hydrated. Drink water.
- A willing, respectful and gentle partner. Don't even think about trying this unless you trust your man to take it slow.
Start by licking his cock from one end to the other. If you don't like it messy, it isn't going to be easy; slobber on it. Or use a lubricant; they help it stay slick longer and give you a chance to work on the tip and not have the base dry out. Lubrication is key: it needs to slide down smoothly all the way and get it back out.
Have you tried out some flavored edible lubes? They really help!
Contrary to popular believe, do NOT relax your throat. You want to stretch your throat back and open as hard as you can. Tilt your head slightly back; the best position is acutally on your back, with your head over the edge of the bed, or on the bed but tipped back as if it where over. Try different angles to find the one that is best for you.
Don't practice deep throating with a banana, or any other food object for that matter or with any object that might break off and lodge in your airway.
Quotes:
kinkerbelle says: One thing I have learned is to breath in while my head is moving down and exhale as it is going back up. It takes some practice but it has really helped me.
Redhed says: A bit of gagging can actually be very helpful, the saliva produced when you gag tends to be slicker and slipperier, making throat fucking a bit easier.