On Wed, Feb 24, 2010 at 10:40 AM, YES NOPE9 <yes@nope9.com> wrote:
>> Often, in a large community, one must sacrifice "yummy" for "good
>> enough"
> In 90% of cases, this is not necessary. =A0Yet most people are driven by
> tribalistic
> tendencies. =A0 Desire for approval , affirmation , fear of
> strangeness, .......
> And of course, they grow up being trained to believe they belong to
> groups ;
> not the other way around.
>
>> If "good enough" doesn't cut it then one is always free to fulfill
>> their yummy elsewhere.
>
> This was true in the 1800s. =A0No longer an option for many. =A0Unless you
> are very rich and can insulate yourself , there is nowhere to go that
> does
> not have excessive controls on human behaviour. =A0The controls
> come from either pirates , criminal gangs or governments which are
> often indistinguishable.

It appears you are speaking more generally - I don't see how one must
be rich and insular to avoid the piclist.

In any case, small communities are self defining.  If you jump into a
community and declare that their existing "flavor" is wrong you should
expect to receive a cold shoulder.  It doesn't matter if it is
objectively wrong or not - it's their community long before it was
yours.

If you are unable to integrate comfortably with the community, then
you have two choices:
 - Leave
 - Change the community

Most people choose the path of least resistance and leave - generally
there are so many communities, and changing an existing community is
long, hard work that it makes more sense from a
hunter/getherer/resources standpoint to find or form a better fitting
community.

Some choose the more difficult path largely because they get something
from the community that is worth the additional trouble.

But then there's a catch-22.  By changing the fundamental flavor of
the community, they may no longer find that it provides them with what
they require.  Further, the community may itself disintegrate as those
who made it great in the first place find the new flavor distasteful
and leave.

-Adam

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