>>
>> On May 31, 2008, at 11:47 PM, Jinx wrote:
>>
>>>>> Olin is not responsible for other people's reactions
>>>>
>>>> Of course he is. Everybody is.
>>>
>>> Sorry, I don't agree with you.
>>
>> So if I insulted or praised you right now, what I just said has
>> no bearing on how you felt afterwards ? So your emotions
>> are not affected in any way whatsoever by what someone
>> says to you, positive or negative. Wow. You must be dead
>> inside
>

This is a good example.  Suggesting I am dead inside does not upset  
me.... mainly because it is wrong.  If I am praised for something  
that is trivial, I don't get excited.   The facts don't merit it.    
If I did something great, I am happy.  Someone else's praise does not  
make me happier.  Here is a caveat.  I live with a partner who I  
admire after many years together.  If she says I am great, I like  
hearing that.  I have chosen to be with her out of all the people I  
have ever met.  Even with her, the main reason I hang with her is  
because she is entertaining and says interesting things.  I am not  
waiting for her to boost my feelings.  I do like her hugs.

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