On 1/25/07, Howard Winter wrote: > > On Thu, 25 Jan 2007 10:21:25 -0500, David VanHorn wrote: > > ...a lot of fascinating stuff - well said, Dave, it must have been hard to > write and I for one appreciate the effort! Well, we've been thinking a lot about where we are with this. Many people are poly in secret. It turns out that here in my little home town, there are at least three polyfamilies that I know of, and I'm sure there's more. Nationwide, it's been there since forever, but lately is a growing thing. There's "big love" on hbo, which isn't strictly polyamory, but it's close enough, and an upcoming series called "polly and marie", and some other things in the works. In the HBO series, the script seems to have been written by someone who had a copy of that famous guideline, "how to f#$% up polyamory" :) But if there were no drama, it wouldn't be interesting. So we've been working through about going public. Kardia is very public. Back when she was feeling better, she was pretty much an activist. I'm not comfortable with hiding or lying, and I honestly can't concieve that we are doing anything wrong. It may be forbidden by someone else's religion but then again I do enjoy pork chops, and I work on saturday and sunday too. Nobody's being decieved, and no agreements between us are being broken, and we are all happy. If pancreatitis hits me again, I know that I will always have either lori or kardia at my side, and the other one will be taking care of the kids. I guess I'm getting a real appreciation for what gay people have been through. I'd say poly is probably 10-20 years behind them in relative progress. -- http://www.piclist.com PIC/SX FAQ & list archive View/change your membership options at http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/piclist