So where are we up to with this ?

Options so far -

TVS across transistor
RC snubber across relay coil
RC on transistor base to slow switch-off
Diode (of some sort) across relay coil

Is there any consensus as to the preferred order ?

eg if cost is not an issue / if cost is an issue
eg if components are not to be grossly over-rated

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