David Van Horn wrote:

>>I think that is one reason why wife swapping happens. 
>>
Well, I did not intend to get involved in all this, although I think it 
does no harm to discuss such issues. (I am now beginning to see what 
buttons one can push with James in order to have a free slate.  :-)

That said, however, let me add my two cents.  I was a graduate student 
in the mid-sixties, and my wife was an undergraduate.  So of course we 
were both involved in what was later termed the "sexual revolution."  I 
was older, having done seven years in the army, and we had both had been 
married before.  As with perhaps all graduate students, I had a full 
social calendar, and my wife shared in that. We had many friends, and 
because of the "revolution" many our friends were experimenting with 
different arrangements.  So let an old guy just give his thoughts on 
this. :-)

My wife and I were talking about those days just the other day (although 
it was just though sheer coincidence -- we celebrated our 38th 
aniversary -- and so so were talking about all the different couples we 
had known).  Not one --  not even one --  of the couples that we had 
known who opted for open marriage arrangements had a succesful 
marriage!  My major was mathematics, and so I do not presume to try and 
issue any sort of grandiose sociological statement from that.  But there 
is the data, for what it is worth.  In every case an essential bond was 
destroyed, IMHO. 

John
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