So... where's your PIC question or answer? Or are you just trying to PICk up someone? :-) AndrŽ Malafaya Baptista -----Original Message----- From: N.Elmayan [mailto:nelmayan@USA.NET] Sent: Quarta-feira, 11 de Novembro de 1998 19:24 To: PICLIST@MITVMA.MIT.EDU Subject: 6 ways to make her want you Romancing, wooing, flirting, chasing, hunting - you call it what you want but there is only one way to a woman's heart. Unfortunately, many of us have been side tracked by the myth that woman are "complex creature"; they're on a "different frequency ; there's just no understanding them." The truth is, if you're witting and able, there's no simpler thing than winning the heart of the woman you desire. In six steps, here's how . Just Say it Don't beat around the bush-tell her ! Signals may go unnoticed, catchy come-ons may be misunderstood. Sate it straight and simple. "You're really nice" is too vague. "I enjoy being with you" may come out sounding like a call for friendship. Tell her exactly how you feel and what you hope will be the outcome. You don't have to sound like Shakespeare to get her attention, sometimes too many fancy words will send her diving for cover. A little charm will do it. Remember, this is only the first step. Take it Slowly Give her time. If she's slow to respond then she needs time to think about. Women don't like to be rushed into something they're not sure they want to do. Tell her she can give you an answer when she's ready. She may be playing hard-to-get but she may also be looking out for herself. Be patient, she'll admire you for it; but don't leave it hanging for too long or she'll think you forgot about her. Timing is important. Give it a day or two and then make the call. Be Sincere Never lie, exaggerate or say something you don't mean. Remember, women have a sixth sense, they can smell a rotten egg a million miles away. "You're the most beautiful women I've ever met" may sound good in the movies but, as much as they enjoy being complemented, women don't like to be taken as fools. A simple "I've been thinking of you" will do it. Honesty is the best policy. She'll remember every word you say so your little white lies may get you into big trouble. Stick to the truth, it never fails. Be Strong Have confidence in yourself and in how you feel. There isn't a woman who will stand for a man who begs. "If you don't go out with me, I'll kill myself" is really pushing it. You want her to feel for you, not feel sorry for you. Let her know you won't give up that easily and she may think again. You want to show here you're a man who's got his priorities straight, a man who is willing to work hard for what he wants. Then again, be careful not to be over-confident; arrogance is a definite turn -off. Telling her "I want you and I'm gonna get you" would be a sure bet you'll never see her again. Make her fell wanted, not hunted. Share with her It is in a woman's nature to listen analyze, criticize and help out whenever she can. Open up to her, If she asks how your day went then she wants to know where you went, who you saw and what you said to them not out of suspicion but out of a need to know more about you. Tell her about your problems, your fears, your aspirations and listen to what she has to say. The romance will only last so long: you need a firm foundation to build this relationship on. Give and you will get. Make her feel Special She may not be your first love but you have to make her feel that she is. The name of the game is ATTENTION. You don't have to buy her an $100 bottle of perfume to turn her head: try a single red rose, a song you heard on the radio that remembered you of her, a call late at night when you know she's up working. Women need to know they're not being taken for granted. In public, control that straying eye; with friends, let her know that her presence is essential. Make her your priority and you won't be disappointed. ____________________________________________________________________ Get free e-mail and a permanent address at http://www.netaddress.com/?N=1